"I hate everyone I work with" - The Whisper Wall Advice Column

Hey Sarah,

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It’s tough when work becomes a source of stress, especially when it feels like the people around you are adding to it. Remember, your job is just one part of your life, it doesn’t define who you are or your worth.

A few thoughts on what could help. 

Focus on Your Goals: Remember why you’re there. Whether it’s to gain experience, pay the bills, or work towards a bigger goal, keeping your focus on your personal objectives can help you navigate the challenging moments.

Create a Separation: Try to mentally separate your work from your personal life. When you leave work, leave the frustrations behind. Engage in activities that you love and spend time with people who lift you up. Believe me, I know this isn’t easy, especially in today’s world where we are often in a routine of always somehow being connected, but I believe in you. Plus, you're not an on demand streaming service. You don't need to be connected 24/7.

Find Allies: While it might feel like you dislike everyone, there might be at least one person you can connect with. Finding even one ally at work can make a huge difference and I bet you aren’t the only one feeling this way.

Self-Care: Prioritize your well-being. Whether it’s through exercise, meditation, or hobbies, make sure you’re taking care of yourself outside of work. Maybe take up darts, you can put pictures of those you dislike up on the board. (okay, that may be over the top, but heck, maybe it will help)

Talk About It: Sometimes, just talking about how you feel can make a huge difference. Whether it’s with a friend, a family member, or a therapist, expressing your frustrations can help you process them.

Remember Your Worth: You are so much more than your job and the people you work with. Your friends, family, passions, and personal achievements define you far more than any workplace ever could.

Consider Your Options: If the situation is unbearable, it might be worth considering other opportunities. Sometimes, a change of environment can bring a whole new perspective and relief.

Hang in there, and know that this too shall pass. You’ve got the strength to get through this. 

~TAB

Picturing that you will look as happy as this when you disconnect from what is just a place of work.